Derek and Missy Irvin Discuss How Emotions Can Cause Conflict in Marriage.
Have you ever had a fight with your spouse about something stupid? Whether if it was the proper way to load the dish washer, critiquing each other’s driving, or being distracted by your phone, all married couples can relate to small thing that become a big conflict. Often couples will tell me they fight about stupid things, but I always challenge their premise because (for the most part) couples don’t fight about stupid things. Rather, they fight about really important EMOTIONS that happen to be tied to trivial, stupid things.
Whenever we have conflict, we have emotions. And our emotions put us into motion. The real question is will we control where our emotions want to take us, or will our emotions take us for a ride? When negative emotions get activated, it is easy to create a story in our mind about why this thing is happening. The more we ruminate on the story in our mind, the more the emotion grows until we act in a more aggressive way.
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